(Hot and humid afternoon.
Feel a headache coming on)
Chance or Choice Part II
Thanks everyone for all your opinions and thoughts. It's quite
interesting reading all the mails. The opinions are definitely split
between two camps: the romantics and the realists. So where do you
A female opinion:
"Love is a most annoying phenomenon that happens without rhyme
or reason. And when it does, good luck to you because there is nothing
to do but to hang on for the ride. Love is tempestuous and petulant.
Like the hurricane that randomly chooses to destroy some and yet
leave others untouched. Love is both kind and mean. It is many things
but it is never stable.
Which is why the calming influence of commitment must be brought
to bear. Which is why commitment, to be effective, must be utter
and blind. Where love is borne by commitment, then and only then,
can fidelity be born out of faith.
And fidelity, as we all know, is the cornerstone of marriage."
A male response to the above statement:
"Back to the issue about Love being Chance or Choice, I think
it is both, and both have to be present. Without Chance, or Marital
/ Romantic Fate, how could we possibly meet the guy or gal who strikes
a chord in our hearts? I felt, and from my experience, believe this
to be IMPOSSIBLE!! Next, on Choice, really, it is our choice to
keep this love, or give it up. Who can stop us? Before we start
to blame circumstantial elements, I think we have to ask ourselves,
deep down in our hearts, how much we love him/ her that we are most
willing to sacrifice ourselves, to give up our liberty, to surrender
our luxuries and compromise our hitherto un-bridled lifestyles???"
Another male response:
"It is a very nice passage, very heart-warming to me. The line
that I like most has to be this,
"If you decide to love a person, even with his/her faults,
that's not a chance. That's a choice."
However much I may like the way it sounds and the warm feelings
generated, it is still flawed.
We do really choose who we want to be with, but I wouldn't say the
same of love. It is entirely of chance isn't it? I'd like to be
a hopeless romantic and think that lightning does strike. But yet
I'm realistic enough to understand that it can easily remain a clear
sky for the rest of people's life.
And I so love this line very much,
"Even if you know there are many people out there who are more
attractive, smarter, richer than your mate, and yet, you decide
to love your mate just the same, that's choice."
How oxymoronic that this choice come about through chance to start
And sometimes we do choose to be chanced upon (in a matter of speaking)
Haha, but I laugh at myself as I write this. Have I seen love to
Oh well, so what may be the Concierge's take on that entry?
Do you believe that it's possible to love more than one person?
And we choose who we want to love AND be with?
We meet many people in our lives and occasionally, we will meet
that special someone who will pull our heartstrings, sometimes even
without our knowing. This is Chance. However, upon meeting that
someone, there will come a time when we decide to be with that him/her
or not. That is Choice. In this extent, I do agree with the original
However, the words "true love" is rather ambiguous. To
me, there are 2 meanings to the words "true love".
1) Soulmate: someone whom you have instant connection with, physically,
emotionally and spiritually.
2) "True" lover: someone whom you stick by, regardless
of the heartaches, pains, tears. Someone whom you share your fears
and joys with BUT whom might not be your soulmate
not too sure if the above is confusing or contradicting.
A soulmate and a true lover might be the same person, but he/she
might not be the same too.
. Do you think we choose who we want to love AND be with?